Monday, November 30, 2015
5 Guiding Thoughts for the Holiday Season
As a continuation of my previous post, I want to offer some more thoughts for the season.
Many religious traditions point to the specialness of this time of year. What the many traditions speak of at this time of year are light and love. Because of the shorter days and often cooler weather, there is a tendency toward inwardness. This can manifest as quiet reflection, contemplation and meditation, and can thereby be a time of a birth of the true self, that core part of our psyche that we want to guide us to awake responsiveness.
We adults must make the time for this crucial self development activity!
So here are my five guiding thoughts.
1. This is a time of year to remember our human connectedness, human community, and the warmth and love of human relationships.
Phone or write cards (actual paper in envelopes with stamps) to reconnect with family and friends who you may have neglected reaching out to over the year or years. Sit down and eat meals together without electronic distractions. Experience the warmth of human gatherings.
2. Remember your deep and true human values of giving, compassion, caring, generosity, sharing, warmth, and love.
Out of your care and compassion, what support and help can you offer others who may be in need? A hug for a friend or a meal for a homeless person?
3. How can you help your child toward these through your example?
Rather than a mood of getting, frantic shopping, stress, and the over stimulation of malls, movies, and consumerism, create quiet times reading stories, singing and making things together and simply being together.
4. How about making time for cooking together.?
Surround your child with warmth of the modern hearth, the smells of cooking, the warmth of your activity, the giving of cooking for others, cooking as a gift? Maybe make some sandwiches that you can bring downtown and give away to folks who have less to eat that you.
5. Create an environment of less stimulation for your young child!
The world of stores is so bright and loud and intentionally overstimulating. Find ways to leave your young child at home if you must enter the rushing shopping world. Grandma or Grandpa would be so happy to have time with your children, or maybe you can trade off with other parents.
Do you know that the light source with the closest spectrum of light as sunlight is candle light? Have less bright lights (including colorful screens) and less loud music for your young children. Read and sing by candlelight. It can be such an enriching experience for you and your children.
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