tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040322857504386258.post6702790999392650331..comments2023-04-17T04:54:15.911-07:00Comments on Chamakanda Blogs: The Importance of Saying "No"Chamakanda Stevehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03376511692493913049noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7040322857504386258.post-34389818951772258302014-04-08T11:35:11.695-07:002014-04-08T11:35:11.695-07:00Thank you for this post! It's really helpful....Thank you for this post! It's really helpful. For me, the most important part was reading what you said about the fact that saying 'no' does not make you mean. Although I already know this, it's hard not to feel this way. I saved this quote and will try to read it when I'm having a hard time not being "liked" for saying no.<br /><br />What I struggle with is how to react when a particular boundary is crossed. For example, we were playing at the park today, and his shoe fell off. I came over and put it back on him, but this made him think it would be funny to take his shoe off. He started running around without his shoe on. I told him calmly that he needed to keep his shoes on and tried not to make a big deal out of it. He happily helped me put his shoe back on, ran around for a bit, and then sat down and took it off and started running around. This happened several times. I'm not sure why, but I didn't feel like it would be useful to say something like, "If you keep taking your shoe off, we're going to have to leave." I knew he was likely going to do it again and didn't particularly want to haul him away from the playground. I wasn't terribly concerned about him taking his shoe off, although I thought it was best for him to keep them on for general safety precautions. Any suggestions for how to handle situations like this?<br />Katherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16804613260255198298noreply@blogger.com